Ladies, if you always leave the scraps of the day for you and hardly ever prioritise yourself. Use February the month of love, to indulge in the 7 days of Self Love Challenge.
For some of you it will be just that… a challenge. After you have dealt with work, family, friends, children and household chores the scraps of the day are all that’s left. Finding time to focus on you is one of the hardest things to do.
7 Days Self Love Challenge Journal And Action
February is the month of love, although not for everyone; some ladies feel anxious or miserable about spending time alone. This is often coupled with the guilt of not progressing forward with any of their annual goals set in January (why, oh why do we do that to ourselves by the way?).
We have the entire year to set goals. It doesn’t matter the length of time for accomplishment i.e. daily, weekly, fortnightly, monthly, quarterly or yearly… Come 1 January we write down a mammoth amount of goals, with deadlines for completion 31 December (bah humbug to you too).
I don’t know a single person that doesn’t incorporate some sort of exercise or healthy eating into their goals. Then February rolls around and not a thing has been ticked off… in fact, where did you put the list?
Are you tired of being last on your own list?
Do you compare your life to others?
Do you feel like crap each time?
Is it time to stop ignoring you and start appreciating how wonderful you are?
Let’s carve out 7 days for you!
The 7 days for a Self-Love Challenge where you can embrace your inner Queen.
Yes, you can treat yourself like Royalty… if you don’t do that you can’t expect anyone else to.
7 Days of Self Love Challenge Achievements
The main aim of completing the 7 days of Self Love Challenge is by the end
- Learn to make YOU a priority in your life
- Understand who you are, what you are capable of and accept yourself
- Replace of negative, self-deprecating thoughts with positive amazing self-love thoughts
Find the Time for the Challenge
Perhaps a full 7 whole days is just not practical… You’re a mum, I’m a mum. I get it! So, let’s brainstorm quickly to find the time for you
So how about first thing in the morning before the whole house has woken up? 5 am? 6 am? I know, I know you want to sleep. You’re tired because of your son “multiple waking Johnny!”
Trust me, the feeling of accomplishment you get first thing in the morning is great! The whole house is quiet, outside the foxes are sleeping, the only sound is the tweeting of birds. So, give this option a try. You might love it and want to carry on.
Perhaps you are a work from home mum with young children that sleep in the afternoon. Or you go to work and have a lunch break; use this opportunity to work on the Self Love Challenge. Do not, whatever you do, use the afternoon of your lunch break to work.
Sit, eat your lunch, and work through the challenge. After all, it’s only 7 days… 7 out of 365 days.
After you have finished the night-time routine for your household, you should have a few minutes of silence. Take this opportunity to work on you.
Snippets during the day
Perhaps you are not able to find big chunks of time, so break up your day into 10, 15 or 20-minute slots. Look at the challenge for the day and think about how you can achieve it during the small portions of allocated time
Trust me anything is possible if you really want it!
Time is Free, but it’s priceless.
You can’t own it, but you can use it
You can’t keep it, but you can spend it.
Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.
Wheel of Life: for Happiness and Success in a Balanced Life
So thought I would base the challenge on the Wheel of Life.
It is a tool used by life coaches, to enable their students to take a bird’s eye view of their whole life and assess the areas that need the most improvement.
The areas covered are FAMILY, MENTAL, PHYSICAL, FINANCIAL, CAREER, RECREATIONAL & SPIRITUAL.
Each day will be split into a writing piece and action steps, it would be ideal if you were able to do both.
This will enable you to write down your deepest feelings about the topic and have something to reflect upon when the 7 days are complete. This time next year, your feelings or situation may change.
The journal will be your record. It’s also a good therapeutic exercise, as you won’t lie to yourself. Be as honest and open as possible.
Hopefully force you to take on new habits or practices that can be used continuously at any point in life. Taking action can be hard but it might take you outside your comfort zone and increase your self-esteem and confidence.
Close relationships. Spouse. Children.
Your parents and siblings (brothers and sisters) or partner or spouse. Relationships with friends or extended family would also fall into this category.
Taking care of you means having healthy relationships with those we love. Assess your relationships with your previous partners, is there a pattern that keeps you from choosing the correct person? What qualities do you want in a life partner?
Or if you are not interested in finding love, what about a good friend? We as individuals are made up of our closest friends.
Is there a family member whom you have not spoken to or spent time with in ages? Give them a call. Make quality time on the phone or in person to be with them. Let them into your life, be open, be honest.
Kindness is free, sprinkle that stuff everywhere
Personal development. Problem solving. Innovations.
Psychological wellbeing, including your emotional health, self-confidence, self-discipline as well as plugging into your creative abilities.
Are you continually growing? Do you have a personal development programme?
Write a love letter to yourself from the perspective of a lover. Only use words of positivity and passion. Describing you, starting from the outside (your appearance) and working inwards(your character). Don’t forget to include your accomplishments and achievements.
Do not use words of comparison, measuring yourself against another person’s standards. This is ALL about you and no one else. If you find this hard, think about how you would want someone you love to view you.
What do you want them to notice? What do you want them to admire? What do you want them to run home and tell their friends, parents and family about you?
Today plan a date night, for yourself. Take yourself somewhere lovely, get dressed up for the occasion, look good, smell good and feel good.
If you’re searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror
Health. Exercise. Eating habits. Weight. Dress. Grooming.
Your body. This is how you nourish, dress and sustain it.
Do you have an exercise programme? Do you eat healthy food? Do you dress well? Do you smoke, dress excess amounts of alcohol or take drugs?
Note down everything you eat, drink, inhale or inject for the day, so we can record everything that has gone inside the body. This includes smoking, alcohol and drugs.
Do not cheat, your journal is for your eyes only. This process requires 100% honesty. Hopefully, by reading your own writing, areas that need addressing will become clear. Because it’s almost impossible to hide a habit as you do it all the time.
Are you in denial about your habits? Your body is key to your success. You cannot do without it. The poorer it is looked after, the more difficult it is to sustain the energy required to reach great goals
Do 10 minutes of exercise today. The best method of instant access to a short exercise routine is to download an exercise app on your mobile phone, tablet or computer. There are free and paid apps or better yet, go to YouTube and find an exercise class or work out video. All that is required of this action step is at least 10 minutes of exercise.
Do you exercise already? Fabulous, go up a notch. Always do cardio? Do a weights routine. Always do weights switch to a cardio session.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act, but a habit – Aristotle
Money. Wealth accumulation. Lifestyle.
Income into your bank account from your career, whether that is active or passive income. Assessing your build-up of wealth or debt. As well as overall money management and the impact upon your lifestyle.
Time to assess your financial situation. You need to know how much debt you owe and how much investments you have. If you are unfamiliar with this exercise, use this opportunity to really look at how your finances are impacting your choices in life, because they do.
The amount of money you have or do not have effects every decision you make. So let get started…
How much do you make and how much do you keep? Do you earn a residual income? Is your income continually growing? If your income stream stopped today, how long could you maintain your current lifestyle? Do you have sufficient income to realise your dreams?
Start an emergency fund account today. If you are unfamiliar with this type of account, it is for use towards unexpected expenses, sudden loss of a job, hospital bills, and other unplanned spending.
Make sure that you use the money for emergency purposes only and not for trivial spending. To get started today, put some money in an envelope till you are able to open a decent bank account if you do not have one already.
Then every pay check set aside at least 5% to 10% for your emergency fund. The goal is to have at least six months’ worth of your salary. Start small… say £1000 if you have debt. Once the debt is paid you can go back to aggressively saving for the emergency fund.
It’s not how much money you make, but how much money you keep, how hard it works for you and how many generations you keep it for – Robert Kiyosaki
Job. Business. Hobby. Purpose. Mission. Vision.
Business or/and job, the situation that brings in financial compensation. This also includes looking into your lives purpose, passion, hobbies and vision for your future.
Reflect upon your career since leaving secondary school. Think about all the jobs you have done leading up to the present day and the level of satisfaction you received from them.
Hopefully,your level of satisfaction has grown. If it hasn’t then now is the time to think about implementing a side hustle.
What you are interested in or passionate about? Where are you going? Are you doing what you were born to do? Do you love your job/business? Have you a plan to improve your position? When have you planned to take your next promotion? Do you have a career plan? Is this career going to allow you to reach your dreams?
Let’s put into action how you can move forward in your career, hobby or passion. Look at courses that spikes your interest. It does not have to be a face to face course, but perhaps an online course you can do from the comfort of your home. Don’t dilly-dally look and book!
Your career doesn’t define you because it won’t always be there. You will still be the same person with the same goals, interests, and passions with or without that job title – Gentwenty
Holiday. Time out. Rest. Restoration. Recuperation.
Rest and restoration. Being able to take time out and relax without worrying or stressing about other areas of your life. It is an opportunity to have fun and pursue a pleasurable activity.
Create a list of 20 activities you would like to do. Think of it as a bucket list, which means lots of tasks you would like to do before you “kick the bucket” and die. 20 is not alot, but will start the ball rolling.
Don’t make it all to airy-fairy and outlandish, that could become demoralising and unachievable.
Choose a few simple things that you would love to do but don’t have time, like soaking in the bath with a bath bomb… you get the drift. There are millions of website dedicated just to these lists, so you won’t be short of ideas.
So let’s get started, pick an activity on your list and do it… today!
As my mum says “There is no time like the present.” The activity doesn’t have to be massive like bungy jumping, as I know you have responsibilities.
There is no time like the present – Grandma
Creator. Relationship. Worship. Scripture. Meditation. Prayer. Faith.
We are all spiritual entities. Your morals (meaning a personal compass of right and wrong) and ethics (rules of conduct recognized in respect to a particular class of human actions or a particular group or culture) create your belief system.
As well as your relationship with God or the Universe and how you interact with each other.
Use this time to assess those whom you use as your moral compass. Perhaps you have placed emphasis on a celebrity taking on their morals and belief systems. We can do this without even realising.
The social circles you engage in regularly have a set of ethics and beliefs, hopefully they match up with your morals. Look deeply at yourself, your friends and your relationship with God.
Do you have a personal relationship with a creator? Is this a strong relationship? What are you doing to strengthen it? Do you know and understand your purpose? Have you investigated your faith? Do you pray/meditate regularly?
Pray or meditate for wisdom and knowledge to make wise decisions that impact the lives of you and your family. Ask for an abundance of good health, wealth and happiness forever.
If you don’t try,
you’ll never know.
If you don’t go after what you want
you’ll never get it
and if you never ask
the answer will always be no
Try these activities and tell me about your experience. Share your thoughts in the comments!
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